How Far Will a Narcissist Go to Hurt the Old Supply?

To the moon and back!

Narcissists aren’t obsessed with their old supply because they love them or miss them. They are obsessed because they have an insatiable need to destroy them. Narcissists develop a true hatred for their former partners the moment that they see through their mask. The absolute worst thing you can do to a narcissist is to see who they really are. That is the moment everything changes. 

Narcissists cannot look internally and reflect on their imperfections. That cuts too deep. They have been hiding behind a facade their entire life and they will try to protect that at all costs. This means they need to take anyone down that might be able to expose them or who reflects back parts of them that they cannot bear to acknowledge. 

The punishment for seeing behind the mask is a violent and dangerous one. They use tactics like gaslighting, emotion, psychological, financial, and unfortunately in some situations, physical abuse. You might have noticed that the devaluation started as you started to question them or realized that something wasn’t quite right. The narcissist panicked and decided that you were too dangerous. You knew too much. So now they have to destroy you.

They have to silence anyone who knows the truth. They begin the smear campaign to make damn sure no one will believe you. While you are emotional, they use your reactions to their abuse against you, showing everyone just how “crazy you are”. 

Then, enter the “new supply”. The narcissist loves using the new supply against you. They will parade this person around you as if you never mattered. They want you to feel replaced and that they are better off without you. They will move fast with the supply just to try to convince you and the world that you were the problem. They will go as far as moving in, getting engaged, or getting married quickly to set the stage. Even though the narcissist will never be fully satisfied with the new supply, they will put on a grand show that they are. But the grander the show, the worse the script actually is.

Narcissists will even go as far as staying with that supply when they are unhappy, not only because they cannot admit defeat to the world, but just to spite you. They love seeing you hurt or emotional, and what better way to try to hurt you than to replace you? They can make the relationship last for years or a lifetime because it is a game they must win. Yes, the narcissist actually goes to this extent to hurt their old supply. This has nothing to do with love. Narcissists don’t love the way a normal person does. What they truly love is attention and validation.

Even negative attention feeds their ego. They love knowing that they can get under your skin and make you emotional. Negative attention (supply) is just as good as positive supply. This makes them feel important and they cannot live without any form of supply. 

They will even use their own children to manipulate the old supply and do not care how it might affect them. The name of the game is to hurt the old supply at all cost, no matter who they have to take down, even if it’s their own children.

It’s pretty insane how far a narcissist will go to hurt someone they claim to feel nothing for.