It’s so hard to hear but the person you thought they were never existed. The love you thought you had never existed. And you’re left to wonder, why?
They didn’t hurt you because of who you are. They hurt you because it’s who they are. Narcissists don’t just leave people, they replace. They cannot be alone with themselves and they think people are disposable. They use people to fill the emptiness inside them. The insatiable need to be admired. But deep inside, they hold an endless amount of insecurities and have to project that feeling of inadequacy onto others.
They gaslight, they manipulate. The truth is, they hurt people to feel better about themselves. They do not love in a way a healthy person does. How can they love someone when they don’t even love themselves? They love the supply. It’s all about what you give them and how you make them feel. In no world is that love.
They betray and expect compliance. They abuse and expect forgiveness without accountability. They hurt you and call it love. And when they discard you, it’s the most painful thing you might ever live through. They make you feel as though they never actually ever loved you at all. How could they, when you find your world shattered by the very person who promised to always love you?
You cannot change the past. You cannot try to make sense of how someone who you thought loved you, could hurt you the way that they did. You have to see it for what it is.
Your closure has to be the fact that they did what they did.
